To have a baby or not is an issue that can sometimes be a source of conflict
for couples. For some couples who may need services involving
reproductive medicine may have trouble agreeing on how exactly how they should proceed. For
instance, after a failed cycle of in vitro fertilization (IVF), one partner
may want to stop trying while another may not want to give up just yet.
If you and your partner are disagreeing about fertility treatment, it’s
important to consider whether both of you have all the information need
to make the best decisions.
Consider scheduling a follow-up consultation with your reproductive medicine
specialist to discuss the situation. Explain the position of each partner
and request more information about your current options. You may be surprised
to learn that you have more options than you realized. In some cases,
the consideration of using third-party reproductive services may be an
option. This may include donor sperm, donor eggs, or gestational surrogacy.
Before you and your partner can come to an agreement regarding next steps
with your fertility treatment, it’s necessary to be fully informed
of your options.
Organize Your Thoughts
When couples disagree, one or both partners might have trouble clearly
communicating why they feel the way they do. Put the discussion on hold
for a while to allow each of you to organize your thoughts. It can be
helpful to write down your thoughts and concerns. Clearly state your goals
for your family and the fertility treatments you’re willing to explore
to achieve those goals. It may also be helpful to consider meeting with
a Fertility Counselor who may be able to help provide some guidance during
Once each of you have clearly organized your thoughts, sit down for a discussion
and agree to some ground rules. Each person should have enough time to
state his or her position without being interrupted. Actively listen to
your partner and try to understand the situation from his or her point
of view. Before both of you come to an agreement, it may be necessary
to pause the discussion and reflect on the situation for a while.
ReproMed brings together knowledgeable and experienced reproductive medicine specialists
in Toronto. Our female and male fertility services include IVF and fertility
counselling. If you and your partner would like to explore your options
for having a family, you can call us at (972) 494-5438.